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EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE - WELLNESS-MINDFULNESS

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Mindfulness involves an awareness of the here and now, and a mindset that is open and receptive to new ideas, information and experiences. In substance abuse treatment, mindfulness can be a way to cope with feelings, stress, triggers and urges and a way to manage stress and anxiety. Mindfulness can be the difference between responding effectively to the trauma symptoms that often co-occur with substance abuse, and a relapse to substance use to escape the unpleasant symptoms.


 Mindfulness, if practiced regularly is a positive skill that counteracts one’s self-destructive behavior. It is not an escape or a means of avoidance. It is a way of staying present with pain and discomfort, rather than fleeing from pain and discomfort. Instead of staying compulsively busy to avoid an urge, running from an urge or giving in to an urge by using; a person practicing mindfulness observes and accepts the urge, and rides it like a wave – knowing that every urge has a beginning, middle and end - and that this one too will pass.  


Mindfulness is a way of engaging the mind in response to any stressor, situation, interaction or activity that is causing any distress on the Physical, Emotional or Spiritual of you. Mindfulness helps a person recognize strong urges or feelings as invitations to accept or decline after careful consideration, rather than commands to act immediately. Mindfulness allows a person to remain calm under fire, then choose a response to a stimulus that is in his/her short-term or long-term best interest.


Skills Defined


There are mindfulness skills that need to be learned and practiced. When practiced routinely, it will be easier to call upon the skills at any time and to apply them when needed. Part of the beauty of mindfulness practice, is that the practice does not necessarily require sitting in a certain position or closing the eyes. Mindfulness can be practiced and skills during activities and as part of the activities. Some essential mindfulness skills are:


Awareness: Awareness involves focusing attention on one thing at a time, while at the same time recognizing that there are many things going on. Some of these things are external such as sounds, odors, touch, and sights, while some of these things are internal, such as our feelings thoughts, urges, impulses, etc.


Non-judgmental: The emphasis is on observing without judging or labeling things as “good” or “bad.” The idea is to observe my angry feelings without judging them as bad or feeling a need to get rid of them or do something about them. It’s like holding my anger at arm’s length and just noticing that this is anger. Then understanding that not only is it anger, but that it’s ok that it is anger and even understandable that anger would be there.


Present Moment: A present moment focus or being in the present moment means fully participating in the present without being distracted by guilt from the past or worry and anxiety about the future. It means engaging in activities that are meaningful today, not just mindlessly doing what I have always done or going through the motions without attention to what I am experiencing.

 

Open Mind (or Beginner’s Mind): An open mind or beginner’s mind is childlike (not childish). It is being open to new experiences and seeing them as they are; not how you have judged them to be or think they should be. If I attend an event with the mindset that “this is going to be a waste of time,” I have a preconceived notion about the event that prevents me from experiencing the event as it is. Likewise, if I already know it all, I’m not open to learning anything new, or experiencing the joy and bliss of learning.

A Beginner’s Mind is what a child has who experiences something for the first time.


This article was written by Marc Baisden, MACP, MIN

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Autobiography and Memoir

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Writing a memoir is not the same as writing an autobiography book.


Here are the differences between them:


An Autobiography or Biography

This type of book presents a revealing account of:


- A person’s entire life.


- Their personal history.


- Their birth, youth, and adulthood, ending with old age.


- Their secrets, education, conflicts, and achievements.


- Their personal history recounted in chronological order.


Also, a biography or autobiography is usually written at the end of

someone’ s life. A biography can also be written about someone else,

such as a celebrity, important historical figure, famous athlete,

politician, or spiritual leader, among others.



A Memoir


- Any significant event or a series of moments in one’s life.


- A piece or timeframe of a person’s life.


- Though it can be about anything, it usually features an event or series of

events turned into stories that reveal a message.

- For example, it can be about the death of someone you loved, the

habits of your older brother, a trip to Europe, a spiritual insight, becoming

a writer, finding true love, or life on the beach.

- A memoir focuses on particular events that relate to each other in order

to reveal a life lesson.

Remember, a memoir should be interesting in itself, and should be about

your intimate, personal experiences.


An inspiring memoir is written like a novel, and should include these

important elements: Characters, Location, Conflict, Structure, Point of

View, Conclusion and Message.



Much love,

Valeria

THE RIGHT REASONS TO WRITE A MEMOIR


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There are many good reasons to write a book inspired by your personal

experiences. But there are also wrong reasons to become a writer.


Writing a memoir can be about capturing unforgettable memories,

sharing a life-changing experience, revealing a secret, or rediscovering

oneself. By having your experiences on paper, your book might have a

positive impact on someone else’s life.


HERE ARE SOME OF THE RIGHT REASONS TO WRITE A MEMOIR:


• Self-discovery


• To reveal a side of you no one knows


• To examine your choices in the past and their connection with your life today


• To remember the best shared moments • To share a life-changing experience


• To reveal your emotional truths


• To heal from your childhood traumas


• To show appreciation to someone in your life • To teach what you have learned


• To share your perspective about life


• Writing for your family and future generations


• You feel you have an important message to deliver


• To connect with people who share the same life experience or perspective.


• To feel good


SOME OF THE WRONG REASONS TO WRITE A MEMOIR:


• Revenge


• Wish for fame


• Wish for wealth


• Writing for others


• To show that your are smart and worth it


Much love,

Valeria