RECLAIMING OUR FEMININE POWER: LETTING OUR UNIQUE LIGHTS SHINE!

Here are some of my favorite passages in “Passion To Thrive: Reclaim Your Life’s Potential, Purpose, Passion And Power” by Annika Jende

  

— No one will ever experience the world like you do, feel like you do, love the way you do. You are a unique, one-off, amazing person. Even if you showed up in a different body, it would not be the same. If you had an identical twin, it would not be the same.

Your unique set of skills, talents, gifts, insights, passions and intuitions, is irreproducible and irreplaceable. You are an exceptional and awesome gift to the world, and the world needs you to share it. Whether it’s cooking a nourishing meal for someone hungry and weary, or telling an inspirational or instructive story, or listening to a person from the heart and allowing them to discover themselves in a whole new way, or creating an amazing new artwork, or taking up the good fight, or raising children... Whatever makes your heart sing and gives your life meaning, passion and purpose so you overflow is what the world needs you to contribute.

And your unique gift may be something you haven’t given any thought to before.

If you are ready to own your power and be a force for positive change in the world, and would like a perspective on how to proceed, this book is for you. Read the words and listen to your heart. If they ring true, own them; if they don’t, ask your heart what it feels is true, and follow its promptings. Talk to other women, especially the ones that inspire you, about their perceptions and experiences. You don’t need to reinvent the wheel, and we probably don’t have time for that. Women are good at talking to each other, holding space for each other and supporting each other, so let’s make it happen.

This book offers an opening to the conversation, a window into the potential and power of women.

We are ready to reclaim our inherent feminine power. It’s time to live our lives to the fullest and let our unique lights shine!

— You don’t have to be a professional in the healing arts to be a Healer. The Healer is a woman who can hold space for someone unconditionally, who listens with her heart. She knows that, like her, the person she is sitting with is a spirit of pure love having a human being experience, whether they themselves know this or not. By seeing someone’s true nature, she reminds that person without words that they are far bigger than what they are currently going through. That they are not their story. This is important. Whether your story is one of adoration, wealth, fame and beauty, or if it is one of trauma and deprivation, and you think this is who you are: these are things you experience, that happen to you.

They are not who you are. They only define you if you allow them to. The problem with trauma is a lot of people stay stuck in it. It defines their lives from there on in. I am not saying you shouldn’t talk about it and it shouldn’t be acknowledged or processed; this is an important part of the healing. But if you have been through (as opposed to staying stuck in) a traumatic experience, you know it was an opportunity to grow and become more aware of your own strength, capacity to love and forgive, resilience and magnificence.

Once you have integrated the experience by understanding the truth offered in it (people often use the word “learnings” or “lessons”, but they are really “rememberings” or “reminders” of your own true nature), you can find gratitude in your heart, not for the experience necessarily, but for the peace, love and centeredness you find within yourself as a result. The old cliché, that a diamond doesn’t sparkle until it has been cut, holds true here, too. How can you possibly know how strong and resilient you are, if you never go to the limit?

The Healer knows all of this and by sitting in her presence, you are reminded of this truth, too.

The Healer is also aware that every human being, including herself, has the capacity to act and feel in the entire spectrum that exists. She listens without judgment because, under the same circumstances with the same set of tools, such as understanding, financial situation, emotional support, education, family and friends, and so on, she is aware she herself may have acted the same way. By holding space unconditionally like that, the “healee’s” fear has nothing to fight against, and it quietens, hopefully enough for that person to realize that ultimately, all is well.

The Healer also often tells you exactly what you need to hear at that time, whether it’s easy to hear or not. For example, when I was a third- year university student, I had just been dumped by my boyfriend. I was sharing a house with my best friend, Gitte, and while doing the dishes I was going on, yet again, about this man. Gitte told me, “You know, the universe is one big YES machine. If you keep focusing on this man and how he dumped you, this is what you will keep getting.” So I snapped out of it and got on with life.

Someone with an underdeveloped Healer lives a life of self-centeredness. This can go as far as living a life of arrogance and disregard for others, but more often is an incapacity to be empathic or view an issue from someone else’s perspective. You do not want this kind of person negotiating in a situation where a win/win outcome is required. And isn’t it always?

Famous Healers:

Amma, an Indian woman who heals by hugging... everyone.

The Shadow Healer:

The Shadow Healer is unable to accept and love themselves and others fully and unconditionally. This often leads to a life stuck in a victim consciousness, and an inability to see there is more to themselves and their lives than the dreadful thing that happened to them.

The Shadow Healer commonly manifests as someone who plays the part of the Rescuer, someone who is always trying to help others, rather than to empower them. This sets up a cycle of co-dependence. The person at the receiving the help sometimes does not require or want this help, feeling that they are being disempowered. This can cause a lot of friction in the relationship. The Rescuer needs someone in need of rescuing to feel good about themselves, because they are not processing the unpleasant emotions and beliefs they carry about themselves.

The Shadow Healer can sometimes show up as someone who tries to twist the outside world into a shape that fits into their self-perception. For example, someone who is a perpetrator of violence presenting themselves as a victim. It is likely they experienced violence growing up, and they haven’t ever experienced conflict resolved in any way other than violently. But if they don’t own that they are doing harm to others, they never break that cycle and step into a place of feeling good within themselves and living their full potential.

Healing takes courage.

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