— Let’s discuss how having higher vibrations can help you achieve your mission statement’s goals. You want the outcome you prefer and are clear on. You don’t control how or when. You do control the desired feeling that you want to accomplish. You can achieve a lower vibe outcome, although if you want to be awake and play a bigger game, you want to be the positive change and not be the reprimand. If you need surgery, do you want the surgeon who’s stressed out because of people dying or the one who’s able to focus solely on the science, medicine, and skill necessary and believes in their work— even though they can’t save everyone? Want to know the difference? The physician who stays cool and focuses on saving the patient in front of them is working from a higher frequency of vibrations.
Again, Vibrational Law doesn’t care about positive or negative, good or evil, feeling happy or feeling sad. It simply gives you more of the same energy you exude. So, even if you want something that isn’t aligned with your highest self, you can still obtain it, though it’s not going to help you up-level or have joy. If you’re not sure about the highest outcome you can create, you get mixed results.
How do you know if your goal is aligned with your highest self? By staying in your own business. Do no harm to yourself and others. You’ll know when you’ve aligned to your soul work because your work fulfills you and lights you up, even without ‘fame and glory’. Examples: writing poetry for the sheer joy of it, or writing a book for the honor of sharing information, even if you don’t know whether it will be a financially profitable venture.
You’ll see signs if you’re heading away from your highest self. If you’re really off track, you won’t feel good. If you keep following the wrong direction, you will hit physical exhaustion or sickness, which will make you stop and think. Think about, “What is it I want to be doing and, why do I want that?”
Note: We’re not all here to evolve and awaken at the same time. When you start waking up your consciousness and think everyone else needs to wake up too, you’re in judgment. The world exists as it is, and when we bring our focus to our business and show up at our best standard, we do the most good.
— When I wrote my parent mission statement 22 years ago and pondered my end in mind, I wrote that I wanted my kids to have good self- esteem. So, I decided that I would never say “no” to my kids without a reason—using action to support my parenting style and accomplish the why of my mission statement.
Fast forward to today, my now 26-year-old son said to me the other day, “Mom, you know that when you would say to ask Dad, we never lied to you about him saying ‘yes.’”
I said, “Well, you probably did sometimes.”
“You only said ‘no’ to keep us safe, so that doesn’t count...”
That made me think. He was right. Any time I didn’t give him permission to do something, I would explain why. When parents don’t do that, and lay down the law, children don’t learn how to think, and parents might be letting “Mommy Ego” influence their parenting. When you’re more concerned about what others will think, or adhering to social norms and expectations, you can parent based on how you will look to others instead of what’s in the best interest of your child. “Mommy Ego” is fear that others will judge you through the actions of your child. It’s also fear that you are judging yourself as a parent on how your child is acting. Without that fearful reaction, I was able to proactively set boundaries out of love, and so my noes were received as love. How amazing!
Furthermore, in my parenting journey, whenever I felt my “Mommy Ego” was triggered and I would worry what someone would think of me as a parent instead of what my children needed first, I would ask myself “What’s my end in mind? How will I know when I’m successful?” In the end, I am holding myself accountable for how I showed up. These questions made me very clear on how I didn’t want to parent, which helped me evolve into the kind of parent I wanted to be. Many books helped me learn the skills to parent in alignment to what I desired to experience.
In your own life and pursuit in clarity, you’ll find that the deeper you go into checking your belief systems and the alignment you’re creating, the more you’re aligning to the things you want in that stream of consciousness. It’s like being in a high-speed internet connection instead of dial up, where the connection isn’t good because your clarity has static, if you have clarity at all.
When you’re in clarity, and take action on that clarity, all the organization and creativity of the universe will over-deliver the Divine Creative Good. It works in reverse too. If you’re really clear that you’re miserable, sick, and financially stressed, and act like it, you’ll get more of that, too.
