Malcolm Huxter

WE ALL WANT TO BE HAPPY AND PEACEFUL

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These are some of my favorite passages in “Healing The Heart And Mind With Mindfulness. Ancient Path, Present Moment” by Malcolm Huxter

 

—  Some of us live with great psychological freedom, at case and with joy. For many, however, it is not easy being human. Most of us find the realities of ageing, sickness and death difficult to bear. We often don't get what we want, get what we don't want, and are parted from people or things that arc dear to us. Many of us experience intense mental or emotional distress. This may take the form of hopelessness, des-pair, anguish, anxiety, depression, grief, sadness, dread, worry, panic, frustration, confusion, exasperation, shame, harsh self-criticism, rage, terror, loneliness, boredom, humiliation, embarrassment, guilt, or an overwhelming sense of meaningless. We may also feel uncomfortable with less intense feelings such as alienation, irritation, annoyance, ungratified cravings, uncertainties and insecurities. For those fortunate enough to have a comfortable life there may be a subtle dis-content that holidays or weekends must all come to an end and that pleasant experiences do not last.

The difficult experiences described above can all be referred to as dukkha. The word dukkha comes from an ancient Indian language called Pali. Dukkha is often translated as suffering but the word 'suffering' does not fully capture the meaning of dukkha. The `duk' of dukkha refers to not being quite right, not good. The `kha' refers to the space of the hub of a wheel. Dukkha literally translates as a badly fitting axle in a wheel.

This description of dukkha as a 'difficult grind' or a 'wobbly wheel' is probably best understood as unsatisfactoriness. Dukkha includes a wide spectrum of experience, from the intense and traumatic to the very subtle, and is a part of life. Being human involves the reality of dukkha. We differ only in the degree and intensity of our experience. Those people who are suffering with what our society calls mental disorder arc merely at a more intense position of the dukkha spectrum. Nobody wants or aspires to dukkha. We all want to be happy.

I have worked as a psychologist for well over 20 years and every person I have met in my professional capacity has wanted to be happy. Every individual has been presented with some form of dukkha and they have all wanted to be free from it. They have all aspired to psychological freedom. Mindfulness is a practice that can help individuals find relief and freedom from dukkha. One way of describing mindfulness is: remembering to be attentive to present moment experience with care and wise discernment.

I became interested in mindfulness and related practices when I was a teenager. In 1974 I was 18 years old and I wanted to be happy. I worried about the Vietnam war, the nuclear threat, the pollution of the planet, my health, and the fact that I would, sometimes or other die. I was a worrier. I discovered that if I thought things through realistically and I avoided intentionally harming myself or others it seemed to help with my worries and concerns. Attending art school and also traveling throughout Australia and nearby Southeast Asia I met with people from different cultures and learned about different philosophies and ideas and was introduced to Buddhism. I started attending Tibetan Buddhist meditation retreats in 1975. Meeting Tibetan meditation masters had a profound effect on my perception of the world and myself. The teachers of these retreats were masters of many skills including logic and reason. Thinking clearly was one way I learned to deal with the many challenges of life and late adolescence. There were times, however, when reason and logic did not help. Nonetheless, I persisted. One day when I was reasoning my way through a worry, I heard the sound of a bird. The sound was so beautiful that it completely absorbed all my attention. I noticed the subtle nuances and the changing qualities of these notes of life, and peacefulness arose in my heart. The peace did not last, of course, but from this experience, I developed confidence that release from worry was possible.

In 1976 I met an English-born Theravada Buddhist monk (Ven. Khantipalo) who reinforced my understanding that through mindfulness and present centred awareness I need not get lost in worry and rumination. From then on I aspired to psychological freedom and this became my most important desire and life direction. Not only could mindfulness lead to personal freedom but it could also provide the presence and clarity of mind to most effectively negotiate and deal with concrete problems in the world. I decided to ordain as a Buddhist monk in 1977. I travelled to Thailand and practiced in the Theravada traditions of North-East Thailand. The monastic life was intense and involved training in an ethical lifestyle, the cultivation of attention, mindfulness, and the development of wisdom. The experience of being a monk left a lasting impression on me and gave me a perspective on life where ethics, mindfulness and wisdom were essential on the path to psychological freedom.

When I returned to Australia two years later I trained and worked as a Shiatsu therapist. Shiatsu is a body therapy based on working with Chi or energy meridian systems as utilized in traditional Chinese and Japanese medicine. Working as a Shiatsu therapist and trainer provided an opportunity to cultivate compassion and mindfulness, a livelihood aligned with my life goals and aspirations. I worked with many individuals presenting with a wide range of physical, emotional and mental conditions. In my work as a body therapist, it became evident that non-cognitive, non-talking body-oriented therapy could resolve many mental and emotional problems. Part of this healing seemed related to how body therapies encouraged present centered awareness. I didn't learn about contemporary psychological approaches such as Behavior Therapy (BT), Cognitive Therapy (CT) or Cognitive Behavior Therapy (CBT) until I began university in the mid-1980s. Though lacking any overt reference to ethics many of the principles described in these contemporary approaches seemed very similar to some of those I had learnt in both Tibetan (Mahayana) and Theravada Buddhist traditions.

I began working as a psychologist and developing mindfulness programs in 1991. At this time mindfulness and meditation were not yet understood or accepted within mainstream health settings so the programs I developed and ran were referred to as 'stress management programs. By the late 1990s, some mindfulness-based therapies were gaining credibility as supported by scientific evidence. By the end of the first decade of the twenty-first century, many contemporary psychotherapeutic approaches referred to mindfulness as a key therapeutic factor. These approaches were coined the 'third wave' therapies by one prominent psychologist because he thought they had advanced in many different ways from the earlier conventional practices of BT and CBT (Hayes, 2004). Mindfulness has become increasingly popular in contemporary psychology in the last 20 years and now there are many different third wave therapies. The foundational third wave therapies include: Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction or MBSR (Kabat-Zinn, 1990), Mindfulness-Based Cognitive Therapy or MBCT (Segal, Williams and Teasdale, 2002), Dialectical Behavior Therapy or DBT (Linehan, 1993) and Acceptance and Commitment Therapy or ACT (Hayes, Strosahl and Wilson, 1999).

Currently, mindfulness is regarded as a meditation practice, a coping skill, a mode of being, and a key factor in therapy. It is both a therapeutic stance used by therapists and a skill that can be taught to individuals seeking treatment, therapy, life coaching, and stress management. Mindfulness can be learned individually or within-group settings and is not limited to any one particular mental, emotional or spiritual approach. In the fields of health, therapy, and neuropsychology, the overwhelming evidence is accumulating to suggest that learning mindfulness and related practices improve health and wellbeing.

In its adaptations to Western health services mindfulness has had to, understandably, be free from many of the religious and cultural additions these teachings had acquired over the centuries. The ways that third wave therapies frame and teach mindfulness are different from the ways in which I learned these skills in a traditional Buddhist setting. Nonetheless, I am enormously grateful to the research practitioners and third-wave therapists who have served to make mindfulness and related practices a validated approach to mental and emotional health and wellbeing. I also appreciate the ways in which they have creatively explained and taught these skills and related concepts to our Western culture. Without these adaptations, mindfulness may not have emerged from the domains of Eastern religions and gained credibility in contemporary psychology. I have used many of the strategies and ideas developed by the third wave therapies to great benefit. In this book, I integrate the benefits of contemporary psychology and ancient Buddhist psychology.