The good news is that the Enneagram gives you practical ways to gain consciousness and make a resourceful choice. You will come from your own internal safety not your own often self-created stress. One way that cannot be emphasized enough is through breathwork. Breathing into the emotional passion that gets triggered can help to deepen your awareness of it.
Science has now shown us that with repeated practice, we can break out of our habitual patterns and reactions more often.
Dr. Donald Hebb of McGill University has investigated the neural circuits in the brain, the connections that fire or light up when we are thinking certain thoughts or are engaged in certain behaviors. His conclusion? “What fires together wires together.”
In other words, when your neural circuits fire together in a certain way repeatedly, they tend to do more of the same. In Enneagram terms, your habitual patterns make deep grooves within your personality. When you change the pattern through conscious choice, instead of continually going on autopilot, you disrupt the pattern, and the grooves, lose their edge and soften.
Liz Tobin, Family Health Practitioner, taught it to me this way:
“Connect to your detached observer within and notice how your feelings, perceptions and interactions change. The next time you are faced with a situation that pushes your buttons, stop and pause. Say to yourself, “Here is an opportunity for me to change this way of mine. I have the power to change my response. I do not have to react in the same old way.”
People can change and grow. It takes effort but like anything that gets practiced it gets easier with time.
Remember Dr. David Daniel’s 4 As related to the Enneagram: Awareness, Acceptance, Action, and Adherence.
Awareness of yourself is your type’s wisdom that resonates within you Acceptance of your whole self entails both sun and shadow sides Action: making changes in your patterns by using this newfound awareness to make choices that are balanced for your greater well-being. Adherence or practice: repeatedly using your Wellness Map and Enneagram wisdom. Becoming aware is the first step, accepting your new awareness and using strategies to create new behavior, is action. Repeating these new behaviors is adherence or practice.