— “We all have different needs, and what makes one person happy could make someone else miserable.”
What happens when you try all of the advice to “be happy,” and it doesn’t work for you? Many people will tell you that being happy is as simple as choosing to think positively. But in reality, we all have a need for validation of our negative feelings. When something is wrong, the last thing anyone needs is to be pressured to be okay, and to be shamed for not being happy.
Redefining Positive is a new resource for learning how to use validation to form deeper relationships and connect to each other’s vulnerability. It shows examples of how subtle invalidations are built into our everyday speech, and how even minor changes in what we say to each other can make people feel more heard and understood. The book presents a vision for a more validating world – where people can express their real feelings instead of being afraid that society won’t accept them, and where we form better relationships based on mutual support and respect for each other’s needs.
Valeria Teles interviews Nicole Raheja — the author of “Redefining Positive: How to Use Validation to Be a Positive Force in People's Lives.”
Nicole, who lives in Massachusetts, is the author of two self-help books including her latest work on this book, and All About You: A Personality Quiz Book. Nicole has appeared on the talk show Be My Guest and has given talks on emotional validation at various locations.
— This podcast is a quest for well-being, a quest for a meaningful life through the exploration of fundamental truths, enlightening ideas, insights on physical, mental, and spiritual health. The inspiration is Love. The aspiration is to awaken new ways of thinking that can lead us to a new way of being, being well.
