Why You Heal From Childhood Trauma & Others Don’t
Psychotherapist, Marriage And Family Therapist, Creator Of The TraumaErase Method, Founder And Director Of Trauma Free Nation, Author, Speaker and Survivor Of Childhood Trauma
Healing Conversation #996
— As Survivors of Childhood Trauma, we have been conditioned to expect bad things to happen. We are often overwhelmed by negative expectations about our lives, our relationships and about trying new things. Because the brain gets programmed to expect negativity, our feelings, thoughts and behaviors reinforce unwanted outcomes. And the negativity loop continues. With that conditioning, we learn to scan all the time for what can go wrong . . . so we can prepare for the worst. Negative expectations become a habit that is also reinforced by the trauma-related experience of getting triggered. Every time we struggle with a trigger, the negative "loops" in our brains and bodies get reinforced. In Tamara’s own trauma recovery journey, she realized that even after years of erasing triggers, she still had expected negative experiences — even after trauma was no longer part of her daily life. The reason that your trauma was traumatizing is that as it happened, you knew that something wasn't ok! THIS is your wisdom self! And it is your wisdom self that holds hurt, fear and anger because your wisdom self isn’t encouraged to come forward. Tamara guides you return to that wisdom and to acknowledge, and honor it and trust it!
Valeria interviews Tamara Ridge — the author of “Gratitude & Inner Wisdom Journal for Trauma Survivors: with Prompts & Educational Support for Self-Guided Healing.”
Tamara Ridge is a survivor of childhood trauma who knows first-hand how childhood experiences of trauma perpetuate into romantic relationships that repeat the patterns of childhood because the relationship skills needed to survive a harmful childhood aren’t the same skills that lead to healthy, safe, secure adult friendships and romantic involvements.
Like many Marriage and Family Therapists, Tamara pursued her career as a therapist from a subconscious drive to resolve her own painful experiences and try to correct the harm done to her by “healing the world.” She became a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist over 25 years ago and has since been extremely disappointed with what the mental health field has to offer survivors of childhood trauma.
Armed with a unique approach that combines lived experience with self-healing practices and a sharp research mentality, Tamara created The TraumaErase Method: to empower trauma survivors to systematically eliminate the impact of trauma in their lives. She is the founder and director of Trauma Free Nation, a closed online social network where members actively benefit from the Trauma Erase Method as well as support from Tamara twice per week via group zoom meetings where members are empowered in applying the principles in their personal healing journey.
Tamara is also the author of the Inner Wisdom & Gratitude Journal for Trauma Survivors which is featured in Tamara’s weekend Mini-Workshop that helps survivors reconnect with their inner wisdom that was lost because of trauma.
To learn more about Tamara Ridge and Trauma Free Nation, please visit: centerforhealingtrauma.com
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