YOU ARE MEANT TO HEAL AND BE YOU!

These are some of my favorite passages in “Be You: The Journey of Self-Realization” by Chris Cirak

 

— You know you’re attached when your environment dictates how you feel. When things are working in your favor, you’re happy. When they’re not, you’re sad. When others validate you, you gain confidence. When they criticize you, you become insecure. When you’re shown affection, you feel loved. When it is withheld, you feel abandoned. As long as you’re attached to the world around you to nurture you in whatever ways you haven't nurtured yourself, your life is an endless roller coaster of ups and downs.

You can become attached to anything: people, places, pets, your job, your looks, a memory, things you own - and of course, your life. But the biggest attachment of all is to outcomes. Everything you do from your headspace is with a specific outcome in mind. In fact, you start with the outcome you desire and then work your way backward, figuring out what you need to do to get there. This is how you wind up living for the future, disconnected from the now. You no longer do things for the joy of doing them. You do them because of what you expect in return.

You might even be inclined to accept greater hardship now, so later can be better. You work overtime so you can retire early. You have children so they can take care of you when you’re old. You put off pursuing your dreams because you would rather play it safe, afraid of what tomorrow might bring. Your whole life becomes about living for outcomes, and you completely forget that at the root of them are stuck feelings you can learn to release right now.

Every outcome you're attached to reflects stuck feelings inside.

— There’s no question that some experiences are very difficult and can affect you deeply. Fears and trauma from the past can torment you and turn your life on its head. Often, all you want is to manage your condition so you can become operational again. Rarely, if at all, do you expect to be as flawless as before.

But as you learn to release stuck feelings, you realize there are no unhealable wounds, there are no permanent scars, there is no everlasting damage. There are only layers of stuck feelings that you can learn to release. The more you release, the more you experience what is underneath: your unhurt, unblemished, unimpaired, fully realized self.

Healing is the process of releasing stuck feelings.

Whenever you experience difficult feelings, it is imperative to release them before trying to understand the root cause. Mental analysis is of secondary importance. Once you’re out of reactivity and back to flowing, you’re able to see the situation as it is, take clear action, and make positive and lasting changes in your life so unhealthy situations don't occur again. But you always need to come out of reactivity first, so you can hear your inner voice.

The more you heal yourself, the more your healing capacity grows beyond yourself. It profoundly impacts everything you do and everyone around you. Your mere presence is soothing and helps others to release their stuck feelings. You find yourself taking on and releasing the pain of your lineage, of your gender, of your generation, of an entire era. That’s how powerful you are.

In the process of healing yourself, you become a healing force for the world.

Once you release stuck feelings, they are no longer part of your reality. A completely new life experience opens up. Indifference turns into inspiration. Scarcity turns into abundance. Limitations turn into beauty. Fears give way to the endless possibilities and uninhibited creativity of life. You realize you are part of it all. Healing allows life to flow because being in the flow is your natural state.

Everything comes back to being you. Instead of living for outcomes, live for the simplicity of the incoming moment. Instead of seeking love outside of yourself, find it within yourself. Instead of trying to make life happen, let it happen. Instead of figuring it all out in advance, figure yourself out as you go.

Life is an unrelenting force that never gives up on you. Everything is designed to help you realize how perfect you are. You cannot avoid it. You are meant to heal.


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