What do you spend your time thinking about? Does your mind wander and fall into self-defeating thought patterns or do you choose liberating and empowering thoughts? Emotions are as transient as the weather, but we have the ability to choose our thoughts. We do this by paying attention to our thoughts and replacing those that don’t serve us well with affirmations.
Affirmations are clear, short statements of who we are and who we want to be. Don’t waste any time or energy thinking about your shortcomings or what you need to do to change. Instead, accept yourself exactly as you are. Be kind to yourself. Use affirmations.
I first heard about affirmations 20 years ago through a friend who was suffering from severe depression. Her therapist suggested she try affirmations, but really didn’t explain to my friend how to write powerful affirmations or how to use them effectively. It wasn’t until I became a parent that I began to study how affirmations work and how to use them effectively.
I realized as a new parent that I would be no better at disciplining my child than I was at disciplining myself. That’s when I decided to develop my own parenting affirmations. I posted them on my bathroom wall and began saying them every morning and every night: I am a loving, nurturing parent. I practice proactive discipline. I respond calmly to all situations. I explore and discover the world with my child. I wrote ten parenting affirmations in all that are still posted by my bathroom mirror.
Whatever it is you need, whatever it is you want, put it in the form of an affirmation. Pay attention to your thoughts throughout the day. Whenever you find yourself feeling worried or afraid, repeat your affirmations. Whenever a negative thought comes to mind, acknowledge and release it. Then think instead of a positive affirmation: I am safe. I am healthy. I am prosperous. I am loved. By directing your thoughts to positive things, you will create positive experiences in your life.
The most effective affirmations are the ones that you choose and create for yourself. Whatever it is that you’d like to change or improve, put it into affirming words.Tape your affirmations to your bathroom mirror and repeat them frequently throughout the day.
Make sure your affirmations are completely positive. If you say, “I am debt-free,” you are continuing to affirm debt whether you mean to or not. Take out all negative words (no, not, stop, refrain) and negative ideas (debt, need, fear, want). Write your affirmations in the present tense: “I am strong.” If you write your affirmation in the future tense, “I will be strong,” that keeps the strength you want out in the future instead of accepting it into your present being.
I put my favorite affirmations into a short poem that I’ve used every day for years:
